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What is it with these mothers who think its cool to try and be their kid’s best friends? You are a parent, not a buddy. Don’t you have friends your own age? Are you still grasping at the one last chance to be popular since you got laughed off the gym floor by Barbie the teenage bitch at cheerleader try-outs? Or were you the Barbie and you’re hoping to pass the bitch torch down to Barbie 2.0? Living vicariously through your teenager is so sad and pathetic. Not to mention the fact that the rest of us have to endure the terrifying byproduct of 40 year old moms wearing the same kind of clothes or in some cases the actual same clothes as their teenage daughters. Since all your mirrors are obviously from a fun-house let me be the one to tell you that you look absurd and ridiculous.
There is just no way to be a good parent of a teenager and their best buddy. In trying you will lose any remaining respect your kid had for you. If your relationship is built on a solid foundation born out of respect then as you both get older things will naturally progress from a parental relationship to one of parent/child and friendship. Also, despite the fact that you live in fantasyland your kid will never fully confide in you because regardless of how much you think you’re BFF’s, they don’t. What kind of advice and guidance can you offer if you are trying to walk the slippery slope a friend does? Think about it, a teenager’s best friend can change three times in a week.
Friends don’t have authority over one another so when the parental line is blurred it only causes confusion in an already confusing time. How can you possible discipline a kid when you have no authority? It certainly won’t mean anything. It’s ironic and really pretty funny that you still think you rule the roost. The reality is that you have been playing the role of a trampled on door mat since your best pal striped away all the control you had when they were three and have been in command ever since.
So, mom, grow up and let reality set in. You aren’t 14 anymore. Act your age. Act like a parent. When it comes to your kids it’s about them, not you.